When I used to drive everyday an hour each way to work on a mix of highway and twisty backroads, using a Subaru Impreza, I found that the outside shoulders of the front tires wore out too fast at the stock tire pressures (I was obsessive about the alignment, so it wasn't wearing from a bad alignment). Lets just say that I got the most out of my driving time everyday, doing my best to squirt my brains out my ear-holes throwing the car into corners. I found that I got more life out of the tires by overinflating the fronts by 2-4 psi and the rears by 1-2 psi. I also found that going any more than that didn't give me any more tread life, made the car nervous in a straight line, and also made the tires slip sooner when cornering hard. Of course, this was all on a Subaru with Eagle GT+4 tires back in the 90's, so none of that might be relevant today...
Overall, I would say to try changing the pressure when you can drive the same route, and see if you can feel any difference. In any case, I wouldn't change the pressure too much from stock, as it could make the car's handling feel weird and unpredictable.
Also, don't worry about what the pressures are when you are driving. All recommended pressures are cold pressures, meaning when the car and tires are at ambient temperatures. They make their recommendations knowing that the pressures will go up while driving.